The Messy Raw and Unfiltered April Purge

Roosevelt said, "Nothing in this world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty." and I resonate with this to an extent, although I’m learning that the way we are heading in the world is a more feminine way of doing things. We need to lean into not creating effort, but still be in right action and alignment. 

For the men, they may be able to put forth more energy into the doing, but I know us women are learning to find more ways of yin: of stillness, surrender, finding spaciousness to feel good in contemplation, in quietude, to breath and be, and pause in the mystery. And this takes a lot of undoing. 

This unlearning process can crop up in uncanny places. Places you didn’t think you were efforting:  like in relationships. Places where you have to balance the role of putting in “the work”, and knowing at times it will be hard, that there is acting; thought, and intention to keep what we wish and desire. 

So how does this balance out in a relationship? Where do we draw the line of putting in the time to create a healthy relationship which must be a spontaneous recipe of: good communication to share the easy and compatible, but also talk about the necessary? And while doing be easeful and playful, amidst having the weekly tasks, to meet goals, or even finding ourselves in the struggle of life?

We may have a season where we are hit with stress at work, or are struck by a family tragedy or grief, or we will be triggered by old trauma(s) that we thought we had worked through (or knew we still needed to), or any other number of things that are out of our control and come up as life brings it. 

What I do know is this: Life is messy and love happens. We search for it and we rejoice in it. We then have chapters of healing and transformation that are eruptive and spontaneous. Our soul doesn’t follow our planners, nor does it say we should stay in something that no longer serves us. Messy life is raw and unfiltered, like a dandelion-full yard. Relationships take grit, and a desire to be steady and find that balance point, that swings and ebbs. There is no perfect formula. And so there is an effort. 

But there is also the ease of true and lasting compatibility. The kind that somehow brings us closer to possibilities, dreams, and also to gentle forgiveness when we mess up. Because we’ll keep making mistakes and be perfectly imperfect. A lasting love will often smell and look like gentle flower petals, soft breezes, and be as delightful as fuzzy duckling. Or as real as the slithering garden snake, or a dark, wet and bumpy-skinned toad on your path. It can be surprising, it can take you off guard, but it will allow you to see the soft and vulnerable parts where you get more curious. 

While I experienced this in the beginning of my relationship, as many of us do, this sadly didn’t last. My relationship with Jesse ended during the eclipse season, which often sweeps many things from us, and often comes quickly like a storm or a bad dream. It catches us off guard, even if we had been second-guessing. While my heart has been heavy, I too have been healing. 

And I am grateful that he and I brought in many of the sweet and loving things that made our hearts sing when we decided to embark on a partnership. As the spring continues to bloom around me, I am gifted by knowing that transformation brings new life and that a door that closes always brings new doors to open. That I will find my person for me in right timing. And as I continue to reflect, I know that I loved well, and I feel good about the love we shared. This relationship in all its reflections was a gift for me to grow. Life is strange, mysterious, messy and beautiful. 

What transformations are coming for you since the eclipses? And remember these will continue to unfold for the next five months, so we may not know all that lies ahead. Another thing to keep in mind is that my break up happened during my Uranus cycle. When we are in Uranus transits, these are often times when we have shocking and unexpected events. 

In what areas is the divine feminine energy showing you how you have been pushing, forcing or trying too hard? These ways of being are dissolving, whether we want them to or not sometimes! And as you can hear in the latest April Phoenix Rising video below, the Lilith energy wants resolve. Our shadows need to be seen. We need to find gentle ways to come in and tend to the garden of our heart. To weed out the parts of us that we have disowned, that we don’t like or don’t want to look at. The places where we carry shame, guilt, and want to hide from, or hide it from all others. 

I have a couple of ways that I help clients tend to their heart garden. The Transform to Transmute package allows you to heal through a mixture of your choice of modalities with a focus on inner child healing : Amma Therapy, Ancestral Energy Clearing and Empowerment Coaching. This course will  assist you to transmute the old stories, and karmic attachments, and to discover and embrace your shadows so you can transmute them and then create the life you wish. This can include a Chinese Astrology reading to help you with more confidence, innerstanding your strengths and gifts. Any of these sessions above can also be done on their own. We get to rise like the phoenix as we purify and purge.

Blessings on the unfolding,

Korenna

(See Empowerment Coaching page for Transform to Transmute details! )