Women, This Is Why You Can’t Keep Up & The Remedy
Women, I’ve been on a journey that I know many of you can relate to. And while I can only speak to this as a woman, this is something for the men too. Seeing us shift out of the patriarchal order is one that takes time and patience and most of all, unlearning for all of us. For us women, it’s one where we step out of being in too much of our masculine energy.
While that was needed to be the heroine for a time, this has only embedded more pain, and as we are transitioning out of the Age of Pisces (yes it’s still a transition time), we women are finding we don’t get rewarded when we’re in overly masculine energy any more. Perhaps we never did, but rather did a lot of masking to make it through. And we had to out of necessity for our children, families, business, or just out of survival. And while that served its purpose, we are slowly letting go of this painful old program and paradigm.
This was modeled to us expertly by our parents or grandparents, as well as heralded by society as a puritanical example, and in other ways shamed if or when we didn’t abide. This continues in many families and institutions (namely churches, but other morally encoded organizations as well).
This comes in forms of ridicule, or just off-handed remarks, but the bottom line is that we must toe the line. And if we don’t work and take care of the house, kids and every last plan, and do everything for every birthday, holiday and gathering that we aren’t only failing, but are purposeless, or not deserving of the money and things that our partners income brings in, or even worse are just plain lazy, useless, stupid or crazy. This has had us working sun up to sun down, and let me tell you, the tolls are high.
Yes, many of us women worked so much that this cost us greatly, and it still does for those who try to keep up with this conditioning. (And many women can concur, we still are.) Our health declines with each push against our need to relax, and to have our bodies request a slower time during our monthly cycles is far too much to ask. So instead we’re against our periods and bodies, driving them away with the “pill” as if they were the devil itself putting them into the shadow of nonexistence, although our mental and physical health pays a price. (The new paradigm is instead inviting us to love our menstruation, and to take the time to slow, relax and receive.)
Women’s mental health takes the hugest hit with guilt for wanting something else like down time, and thinking there must be something wrong with us if we can’t keep up. Often, we want time to work out to look and feel good, or to do something fun for us that’s heaven forbid, not productive. And because of all of this running away from our desires and needs, women are almost twice as likely to be using antidepressants as men according to current statistics. And in the last 15 years more women than men are taking them to mask keeping up with these absurd standards. And our bodies also ail us with more painful issues as we stuff away these wants.
So yes we’re hurting. And there’s a lot of unraveling. And as a business owner for 13 years, I continue to unravel my own story around this narrative. While I have always tried to maintain a balance, and not having children has allowed me more of that, I too have struggled.
In trying to run a business, I often had only a masculine model even by well-meaning coaches. And I’m learning every year a new path forward. I have been striving to bring in more of this feminine energy, to bring in abundance, and stop playing small while giving myself the time needed to relax and restore. And while I’m not perfect, I think I do a pretty darn good job of it, and enjoy modeling this to my sisters.
This does and has required a lot of healing, but ultimately I got to release old ways of trauma stored in me that from the pushing and the lack of self-love that at one point manifested as hyperthyroidism and psoriasis. This took many years to heal and a lot of dedication. And I teach this now through my Amma Bodywork and Alignment Coaching.
I continue finding ways to market and share my message and give my energy where and when I can. At times, I still falter, but I’m finding that the more I lean into finding a balance between rest, work and play, the better I feel.
The more I stay in my feminine, the more I call in those ideal clients for myself, and the more I have time to pace myself in creating things for business, with enjoying hobbies that excite me, having my introvert needs met, and finding meaningful connection time with friends and family.
As I’ve been on this journey, I’ve been doing this along with other friends and business owners and some of us have teamed up to bring you a retreat to reclaim your inner feminine. If you’re wanting to step out of too much masculine energy, this is your opport-unity to join together in a sisterhood, and in a really special place, Mount Shasta. Together we’ll be held in a supportive container with the Magi Andrea Blythe, who will activate us with Magi Astrology to find more of our soul’s calling.
And we’ll continue our transformation on this sacred land, with nurturing activations by time in nature, and healing activators along the way. I’ll be guiding us as one of those with Breathwork Yoga to move out this stuck energy, and I invite you to learn more about this retreat with all the details below or on this QR code.
Even after I said YES to this journey, I found myself even more activated and recalibrating. While some of this has been painful at first, it’s ultimately liberating. Like when you realize you have a right to be visible and you speak up, sometimes the other person isn’t ready to see you as a person in your power, and they don’t like it so you lovingly let them go. Meanwhile the most amazing new person shows up to take their place. This is what happens when you say Yes to yourself, and stop allowing things that make you feel less than or small. Other times it looks like a client saying yes to your $2000 package that you hadn’t sold in a while because it seemed “too much”, but you knew it would serve them best so you put it out there and they said Yes.
When we say Yes to ourselves and stop putting ourselves last, a transformation does happen. And this is self-love in action and growing. It’s also finding a more joyful path. The world gets more exciting, and we have more we want to share and enjoy with loved ones because of it.
I’d love for you to share your experience in how you are shifting too!
Blessings,
Korenna
